i had a dream last week.
in my dream, i was crying terribly.
i was crying becuase on my result slip, i saw a B4.
B4 for olevels chinese.
this sounds more like a nightmare.
no, i dont want this to come true!
12 more days to piano exam.
23 more days to prelims.
92 more days to olevels.
boo.
WIKIPEDIA (the free encyclopedia)
Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by
perceiving oneself to be unloved, inadequate or worthless. A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value and capability, trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by "going wrong" in future. This is not to be confused with
humility, which involves recognising one's failings but still maintaining a healthy dose of self-confidence. Insecurity is not an objective evaluation of one's ability but an emotional interpretation, as two people with the same capabilities may have entirely different levels of insecurity. Insecurity may cause
shyness,
paranoia and
social withdrawal, or alternatively it may encourage compensatory behaviours such as
arrogance,
aggression, or
bullying, a principle enshrined in the phrase "all bullies are cowards." Many people suffer a period of insecurity during
puberty, which gives rise to a lot of the stereotypical behaviours of
adolescents. Insecurity has many effects in a person's life. There are several levels of it. It nearly always causes some degree of
isolation as a typically insecure person withdraws themselves to some extent. The greater the insecurity, the higher the degree of isolation. Insecurity is often rooted in a person during their childhood years. Like offense and bitterness, it grows in layer fashion, often becoming an immobilising force that sets a limiting factor in the person's life. Insecurity robs by degrees - the degree it is entrenched is the degree of power it has in the person's life. As insecurity can be distressing and feel threatening to the
psyche, insecurity can often be accompanied by a
controlling personality type or
avoidance, as psychological
defence mechanisms. Insecurity can be overcomed. It takes time and patience and a willingness to believe each person (and specifically oneself) is in fact of innate value. The first of
Erikson's stages of psychosocial development details the challenge of finding security and learning to trust one's self and environment.
dont you think psychology's interesting?
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